Books About Relationships

OK, if you are reading this you are looking for books about relationships. This generally means one of two things: either you are having trouble in your current relationship, or you have just had one that ended. More often than not, it is the first one and you are looking for advice on how to repair or enhance the relationship you currently are in.

It should make you feel good to know you are taking the right first step in that you are looking for resources to help out. Any relationship worth keeping is worth working for and looking for information or resources to aid in that regard just makes sense. But let’s take a closer look at what you need to find to actually help you. After all, there are many, many books about relationships out there.

You may have heard the term “book smart vs. street smart.” Many people looking for advice on their relationship will fall into the trap of thinking that just because someone has a degree or fancy letters after their name, they must be an expert. Let me give you an analogy here. The most successful coaches in sports more often than not are ones that have played the game before. They’ve been in the trenches, so-to-speak. Thus, when they share advice with their players, often it is based on practical experience and they know the actions and consequences that will occur as a result.

So following that logic, it is best to find a book written by someone who not only has helped countless others enhance or repair their relationships, but has done so for themselves as well. Someone who has “been there and done that”. So look for an author that offers practical experience.

If you have read some of my articles in the past, you will no doubt have read that taking time for reflection and self evaluation is generally a good thing. But it is not the only thing. Many books you find out there will entirely composed of just this one piece of advice and are not worth the money.

Here is perhaps the best advice I can give you in finding a resource…look for one that offers new and useful information. Not just the heresy you get from your friends, but fresh information that actually works from someone who has applied it.

Finally, look closely at the testimonials that accompany a book you may be looking to purchase. Make sure they come from a wide variety of backgrounds and even a wide variety of locations. You certainly don’t want to buy a book from someone who threw something together and most of their testimonials came from members of their family or small town!