Myths About Relationship

We humans have preconceived notions about most things. More often than not these notions prevent us from being open minded. In fact, sometimes it is these pearls of wisdom which we hold so dear to our hearts that come in the way of our completely understanding or enjoying a certain situation.

Relationships are the building blocks of a successful life. But so many of us suffer because of the fixed notions we have about relationships. These notions (which are not always correct or even well thought out) are the yardsticks by which we judge the success or failure of our relationships. So, here are some myths about relationships demystified.

Myth no 1: A great relationship is one in which the partners do not keep secrets. One in which they can vent out all their feelings. This may be true to a certain extent but it certainly isn’t entirely true. A lot of the things we say during these ‘venting out’ sessions are very often things which do not represent our true feelings. Though they are how we think really feel at that point in time.

However, these feelings should not be communicated – more so, if they are potentially destructive. When one of the partners ends up blurting out something really hurtful in the heat of the moment it might damage the relationship permanently.

Because, sometimes people find it hard to forgive some things that have been said during these venting sessions.

Myth no 2: One of the most important ingredients of a great relationship is romance. It is true that love and romance do play an important role in laying the foundation stone of a good and strong relationship. But, if your definition of romance is the kind of stuff you see in movies then you are in for great disappointment. As you grow in a marriage then the initial passion makes way for a more secure and dependable kind of love.

Myth no 3: Two people who think alike or two like minded people are best suited to build a good relationship. A good relationship is one that enriches your life and not one which is a mirror image of it. Besides, it is impossible that you will be able to see things exactly as your partner does because one person is genetically, physiologically, psychologically and historically different from the other.

Myth no 4: If the partners in a relationship are not able to solve problems that arise in a relationship then the relationship is a failure. Because, it is a fact that most of the problems that one faces in a relationship do not have definite solution. The closest one can get to solving these problems is agree to disagree and reach an emotional closure.

Myth no 5: A great relationship is one in which the partners do not fight or argue. Again a misnomer. Every person who has been in a meaningful relationship fights and argues. However, the difference is that they don’t abandon the issue and attack the self-worth of their partner.

Myth no 6: There is a set formula for achieving success in a relationship. The whole business of building a relationship is based on trial and error. Hence there can be no set rule for success.

Figure out what works for you rather than following some standard rule you might have read in a book or heard from a well-meaning friend. If what you and your partner are doing is generating the results you want, stick with it. Even if you think a certain rule is working out for you the thing to remember is not to follow even that rule rigidly!